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this the writing of hte whiner's bio.

Posted on 2005.12.12 at 15:55


staticsoliloquy at 2005-12-13 06:03 (UTC) (Link)

you'll be fine =)

It's funny how things turn out to be. The 1st ranked at my school goes to BU (didn't even apply to HYPSMC). The 2nd ranked attends UCLA (got rejected from Caltech, MIT, Stanford). Keep your head up and know that you'll be happy no matter what.

Looking back on my experience, what I learn from it, and if I have any advice to give to you guys who are in the midst of your process, it would be: life continues regardless.

I remember being in your situation last year. Although it's easy for me to say now, I stressed out way too much. Although I really like it here--the people are friendly, there's lots of work but it's definitely bearable, and the weather is nice--I've realized Stanford isn't any different than any other place that you'll go.

I guess the main thing that stressed me out was that I thought of the college selection process is a make-or-break thing, and that the college that you go to is the culmination of all of your hard work in high school. That's really not true. If you're good enough to have a shot at going to Stanford, then what you take from high school is what will contribute to your success in later life. All the organizational skills and drive that you've had to develop to succeed is so much more important than the name "Stanford." And, if you keep working in college like you did in high school, then you'll do as well as a Stanford graduate. To put it another way, if you're really overqualified and don't get into Stanford you will probably succeed, just as how someone who's really underqualified and gets into Stanford will probably fail.

And most importantly, I've realized that biking through the quad every day doesn't make me a happier person that I was in high school. Ultimately, your college experience depends on you. If you're a friendly person, you'll make a lot of friends and have fun in college. If you're sullen and unhappy all the time, you'll probably be sullen and unhappy no matter where you go (really, life is just determined by how you perceive it).

In short, getting into Stanford or Brown probably won't affect your life nearly as much as you think it will. What affects your life is who you are, and odds are if you're in a position to stress out over the admissions decision, you got your shit together and are going to do well regardless.
chocolate_horse at 2005-12-13 06:23 (UTC) (Link)

Re: you'll be fine =)

that is such good advice! i'm in the middle of applying to colleges, and it was definitely helpful to hear that.
jess_is_here at 2005-12-13 07:47 (UTC) (Link)

Re: you'll be fine =)

Thanks darling! I definitely understand what you are saying, and know it's true. I preach that whole attitude a lot more than I practice it myself. I know, ratoinally, that my college experience will ultimately be what I make of it, regardless of where I go, and that I shouldn't put a whole lot of self worth in the admissions process. Even for overacheivers like you and me, (and especially for people like you and me) high school has been about a lot more than working hard and getting into college, although it is/will be nice to see it pay off in a tangible way. I don't really know what I'm saying, except thanks so much for the advice! Sometimes I just lose sight of all of this with all of the stress and hype, especially when it seems like everyone around me seems to stressing over the same things. It's refreshing to hear a different, more retrospective opinion!

Right now one of the things that's really getting to me is the fact that I know everything is going to change next year, but I still don't know where I'll be! I'm so bad at being patient.
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